LIFO ® PARENT STYLE APPLICATIONS

The LIFO® Method can be used to help parents understand their approach to parenting and to modify their behavior so it is more in line with their parenting goals and aspirations. Common applications include:

Assessing how spouses react to each other: strength recognition and appreciation, managing conflict, handling stress and dealing with value differences.
Examining parental reactions to children's behavior.
Assessing desire for change in relation to parenting strengths.
Examining parental systems for modeling, rewards and punishments.
Identifying excess child behavior style patterns

Supporting Giving	Controlling Taking	Conserving Holding	Adapting Dealing
gives in quickly	scrapper	stubborn	wheedling
gives up	tomboy	fussy	devious
discouraged	impatient	won't try new things	manipulates Mom vs. Dad
judgmental	won't ask first	won't give up old things	sweetness-temper tantrum
absent dreamer	daring	obsessive	does favors only for rewards
clinger	breaks things deliberately	won't go ahead without “hows”	many undesirable friends
blames self	blames others	blames tools	blames situations
If caught or suspected of stealing:
guilty feelings	rationalizes	gives excuses	"just for fun"

Parent Vulnerabilities

Low Supporting Giving will not inculcate principles and morals, how one"ought" to act and why.
Low Controlling Taking will not be very decisive, provide little action, may give low feeling of being taken care of, and fail to set boundaries.
Low Conserving Holding will not impose or provide discipline, rarely teach how to do things or provide much stability with structures.
Low Adapting Dealing - low camaraderie, low family spirit, low individual attention.

Possible Parental Excesses

High Supporting Giving - overprotective, guilt inducing.
High Controlling Taking - overdomineering and demanding.
High Conserving Holding - overlimiting and distant.
High Adapting Dealing - chaotic, overly image-conscious

LIFO ® PARENT STYLE APPLICATIONS

Supporting Giving

Controlling Taking

Conserving Holding

Adapting Dealing

If caught or suspected of stealing:

Parent Vulnerabilities

Possible Parental Excesses

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Supporting
Giving

Controlling
Taking

Conserving
Holding

Adapting
Dealing

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